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I’m home B’H!
My trip was amazing and full of;
Meditating to let in the Soul and
Connecting with new communities and
Investing in old friends and
Bonding with new friends and
Trying to be an adaptable, flexible traveler and
Trying to be worry-free and anxiety-free and
Discovering the ‘PARADOX PRINCIPLE’ and
Trying to convey nuclear bite sized teachings and
And now I’m back, recovering and wondering where have I been and how that influences where am I going to, and one of the first specific explorations that this has led me to is—– the exploration of truth….after all , I tried in my many encounters with people on my trip, to somehow represent and convey a deeper truth to them….but now that I’m back home, and spending most all of my time alone, I’m no longer ‘on stage’, but rather, inside of the classroom of life, and therefore , as a full time learner, I’m moved to explore both what I already know [because unless we make an effort to know what we know, it most likely remains unknown to us ] as well as what I don’t yet know….so here is my latest exploration/presentation which I’ll call [first I’ll bring ‘what I know’—ie…TRUTH TEACHINGS that I have already brought in the past, and afterwards [this week or next] some new stuff-‘what I don’t yet Know’;
IN SEARCH OF TRUTH
TRUTH MEASURING APPROACHES
******Use these approaches as gauges to check the truth value of any principle, decision or piece of wisdom that you encounter.
A. TRUTH STANDS THE TEST OF TIME.
This verse in Proverbs states “The expression of truth stands forever.” Our Sages teach, “Falsehood has legs to stand on”, i.e. staying power. Does it stand up to the test of time? Though you can’t know this ingredient of the real truth of anything until a reasonably considerable amount of time will pass in the future, nevertheless you can compare any similar phenomenon that occurred in the past. If it stood the test of time, so can your present topic at hand.
B. TRUTH RESONATES AND BREEDS HOLINESS.
Our Sages interpret the verse “Distance yourself from falseness” thusly; Falseness distances you from Hashem. You can feel or resonate with the Divine Truth in a situation, statement or idea… not only does it feel to be something that Hashem would approve of, but also you’ll find yourself being drawn to think, feel, speak and act out in a Holy way. Falseness produces the opposite results (the higher that you go in Kabbalah’s spiritual worlds or soul levels, the more Divinity and Truth will you experience).
C. TRUTH IS RECOGNIZED IN AN ATMOSPHERE OF DECEIT AS LIGHT IS IN DARKNESS.
Our Sages also teach that our world is a world of the hiddenness of G-d’s presence (the word “Olam” which means world comes from the Hebrew root for hidden). An even stronger expression offered is that this world is a “world of lies or deceptions” (Alma D’shikra). In a world of lies or deception, the truth, by contrast is very apparent and recognized. (Our sages’ phrase is Emet Nikeret – the Truth is recognized). This power of truth to be recognized in darkness is manifest in the trait of authenticity, where a person fearlessly shines forth the “real me” – even when it would be more comfortable to stay hidden behind their politically correct facade!! Integrity also is an attractive trait where people recognize in the person that they prefer to be courageously truthful rather than comfortably deceitful.
D. TRUTH IS ACCESSED BY SEEING THE WHOLE PICTURE.
The Kabbalists teach that truth is one of the traits of the sefira of Tiferet. Tiferet is the sefira that bridges or connects together all the rest of the sefirot of the personality – those above it (the spiritual and intellectual) with those below it (the actual), those to the right of it (the expansive and free-flowing traits) with those to the left of it (the constrictive and limiting traits). In other words, it takes into account the whole picture. Other similar areas that fall into this category are: 1. Torah – the truth that encompasses all elements 2. A judge – needs to rule based on all the factors 3. A Halachic “Poseik” (Authority) – needs to decide based on all the factors 4. Our forefather Jacob – the patriarch who embodied all sides of life, the spiritual with the physical bridged in all areas of life 5. My good friend’s constant advice in times of being confused about which direction to go was, “Go up to a higher level and see the whole picture – and then everything will fit into its proper place.”
E. KEEP PURSUING THE TRUTH UNTIL YOU GET IT.
“Pursue the Truth.” The Truth by its nature is something like Divinity itself that is hidden and makes itself increasingly available to a person according to their determination to get it!!
COPING WITH DECEPTION APPROACHES
1. MIRRORING THE DECEIVER
King David [in the 2nd ‘Book of Shmuel’ Ch. 22, verses 26-27] teaches this mirroring -principle stating, ‘ With a righteous person, be righteous…with a ‘tam’, be a ‘tam’…with a pure person, be pure…and with a crooked person, be crooked.’
Carry this approach out by simply mirroring ….Be very very careful not to fall into the trap of becoming a deceiver yourself…Hold onto your inner purity in all situations that you find yourself in
2. LIVING IN A HIGHER REALM
Here’s a simple tool that’s do-able and with a lot of persistence, can truly help you to see a world that’s unified and rectifiable, and allows you the ability to cope with some of the toughest people and challenges. You’ve possibly heard me at previous times bring this tool, but I bring it again because its application at this point is very appropriate. It’s called the ‘Mikve Tool’, and here’s what you do: Simply dunk yourself into a real or imagined body of water. While dunking, say to yourself, that all that’s recently happened to you is the best possible thing in the world for you. Then bring up into your mind a specific negative or painful experience that you have had recently. Come up for air and then dunk again and say to yourself that the reason why this experience is the best possible thing that could’ve happened to you, is because________ and wait for an answer to come in to your mind. The answer usually has something to do with the rectification of your personality or soul, such as a need to be more humble, loving, believing…etc…
3. BE A RADICAL ‘TAM’ IN THE FACE OF DECEPTION
****The point here, is that one’s ‘t-a-m ness’ will draw down a Divine-based-protective-force-field, and sometimes will even transform the deceiver into becoming a bit of a ‘tam’ also…Anyway here’s a few basic steps in ‘Tam-ing’;
A. Be radically authentic—–what you express on the outside, should be a reflection of what you feel on the inside…
B. Be radically happy with your lot.
C. Make ‘HOLY SIMPLICITY’ your primal value and ‘Modus operandi’ in life….this includes all areas of life; how you interact with people, with Hashem and with life itself…[Don’t forget what the Breslov Chassidim are fond of saying, ‘it’s not simple to be simple! And don’t forget what the Kabbalists are fond of saying ‘Simplicity is in the highest Sefirotic realm of ‘KETER’]….
A. Identify your strongest points. For example, you may be and feel outstanding in the realm of spirituality or learning or emoting or being creative or getting ‘results’…
B. Leverage or utilize this strong point[s] of yours when you are in the heat of an encounter with a deceptive person [rather than having to distance yourself from them]….
C. For example, if you’re a lover of wisdom, impress upon the deceptive one how fascinated you are by their depth and breadth of wisdom. Hopefully this will steer them away from feeling challenged by you and therefore needing to deceive you…
Escape when you need to escape in order to protect yourself. Get a good lawyer if necessary. Included in this ‘escape clause’ is the ability to not allow the deceiver to trap you into an abusive type of relationship or dynamic that they themself created, in order to always keep you defensive and under their control….
meanwhile, until next time;
ps—–I am in the midst of setting up
my summer schedule and am slowly
but surely filling up my free time with
1 on 1 phone and live
so be in touch, in case you are interested