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PARSHA TOOLS # 2 [NOAH]

SEEING PEOPLE POSITIVELY

1. The entire Parsha of Noah is an in-depth study of how societies fail

because of twisted philosophical outlooks. 340 years after humanity and all

of creation was washed away in a flood, the Torah presents to us the

generation of the Dispersion [the Tower of Babel People].


2. The 'Babel Generation' were even worse than the 'Flood Generation' in

that they declared outright rebellion against G-d being the Boss. the 'Flood

People' were steeped in immorality and theft and got wiped off the face of

the earth which was a lot worse punishment than that received by the 'Babel

people' who were dispersed and confounded [by everyone speaking

unintelligible languages]. Why did they suffer the less severe fate if what

they were doing  seemed to be worse?


3. Unlike the 'Flood People', the 'Babel People' practiced mutual love and

unity amongst each other. Our sages teach that love often overcomes strict

justice. If it worked to save the generation of the Tower of Babel rebels in

the eyes of Hashem, then all the more so it can work for each of us in our

interpersonal relationships. We can simply reframe the way we perceive the

'rebels' and 'criminals' [including the rebels inside of ourselves] in our

lives by hyper focusing on their good points. The more exclusively we just

see the good in them, the more we can really help them become only good.


4. Here's the tool:

  a. Identify a negative trait that you're bothered by in someone [ or in yourself]

  b. Identify a unique and positive trait in that person that you are impressed by and attracted to.

     Contemplate it deeply - Think of how you can acquire this trait for yourself

  c. project in great detail how the next time you meet this person, you will 'groove' on this trait

      [and other positive traits] and nothing negative at all

 d. Work towards changing the image you have of this person and this can

change how they see themselves in your eyes and even in their own eyes.


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